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Jun 20, 2018

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On this episode I discuss my 6 month experiences with sex workers.   I also chat about my biggest takeaways from Simon Sinek's book 'Start with Why'.   3 new weird stories are covered.    A new mixtape sandwich in between.   Finally a few quick reviews of TV shows/movies I've recently watched.

Simon Sinek's 'Start With Why' book.   My Biggest Takeaways.

I found Simon Sinek watching Evan Carmicheal's 'Believe' YouTube channel. I was fascinated by Mr. Sinek's book title, 'Start With Why.' The question 'why do we do what we do' fascinates me.

If you don't already know, self-help books are my jam. This was more of a business book and a slog to get through at times. Also, Mr. Sinek goes on and on about Apple, Steve Jobs, and their products.

Nonetheless, there were some great quotes I pulled from the book. Here are five that spoke to me.

-'The example starts to prove that people don't buy WHAT you do, they buy WHY you do it.' pg 41

-'This is one of the primary reasons why teachers tell students to go with their first instinct when taking a multiple-choice test, to trust their gut. The more time spent thinking about the answer, the bigger the risk that it may be the wrong one. Our limbic brains are smart and often know the right thing to do.'pg 58

-'Great companies don't hire skilled people and motivate them, they hire already motivated people and inspire them.' pg 94

-'Most people in the world are HOW-types. Most people are quite functional in the real world and can do their jobs very well. Some may be very successful and even make millions of dollars, they will never build billion-dollar businesses or change the world. HOW-types don't need WHY-types to do well. But WHY-guys, for all their vision and imagination, often get the short end of the stick. Without someone inspired by their vision and the knowledge to make it a reality, most WHY-types end up as starving visionaries, people with all the answers but never accomplishing much themselves.' pg 141

-'The reason so many small businesses fail, however, is because passion alone can't cut it. For passion to survive, it needs structure. A WHY without the HOW's, passion without structure, has a very high probability of failure.' pg 184

By purchasing 'Start With Why' through the provided link, here you will be supporting both myself and the author. Did any of these takeaways resonate with you? Please comment below and let me know.

3 Weird Stories

Tiger vs. bear 

Shocking number of Americans have sex at work 

Polo racing horses cloned 

Mixtape track listing 

Chris Brown, Lil Dicky-'Freaky Friday'

Kids See Ghosts-'Kids See Ghosts'

Tyy-'Issa Snack'

I Octane-'Oh No'

Vybz Kartel-'Do It'

Chi Ching Ching-'Rice and Peas'

Jahmiel-'Level Up'

Laa Lee-'Watz on Sale'




Quick Reviews of Recent TV Show/Movies I've Watched

Netflix Lost In Space (2018)...Very enjoyable, easy to get through, engaging. Bring on season 2.

Netflix The Rain...Was ok. I'm not looking forward to another season. This dragged for me.

Upgrade (Movie). Wow. I dug this film. Robocop, Terminator vibes. Violent too. This came straight out of the 80s with a futuristic twist. Loved this.

Sense 8...I've watched this from the beginning. I'm a fan of the Wachowski's stuff. I enjoyed there their Matrix films, Cloud Atlas, Jupiter Ascending. I enjoyed this show, but it's not perfect. It lingers on certain situations for a while, and others it wraps up immediately after a long build. The romances and chemistry between the 8 main characters is the highlight of this series for me. Causing me to tear up several times throughout. The action was cool as well. As a whole, this fun.

Black Lightning...For a CW show to include topics such as experimentation on poor, urban neighborhoods. Drugs, gang violence. A strong sense of family within the nuclear unit. Black Lightning was fantastic. This was miles ahead of Netflix's season 1 of Luke Cage. Jason Inman of the Geek History Lesson podcast hailed this show for being the best CW-superhero show of 2018.

My 6 Month Sex Worker Experience

I've been seeing sex workers for the last 6 months. I've had good and bad experiences. The people I've seen have all been in New Jersey. They've been transgender women and some cross-dressers. I've never considered myself bisexual, maybe I am now. Who knows.

I'm reminded of the good experiences while going through bad ones. Normally they happen when the sex worker lives alone or is alone at their place. When they take their time, give a massage, get to know you a bit. I'm often nervous when first meeting a lady of the night. These elements help ease that tension. If the sex is great, this makes the whole encounter an A+.

Bad experiences consist of someone saying they'll do something during the initial contact, then when you get there they no longer do it or want to upsell you to the 'girlfriend experience'. A bad experience happens when the escort looks nothing like their pictures in their online profile. When she says she has no remaining condoms or lube. A bad experience happens when she says she lives alone but someone pops out of the closet while you're having foreplay. Yes, all of this has happened to me during my sexcapades. But I don't regret any of it.

I prefer when the sex workers have their own place. I work in a hotel, at the front desk. I've seen clients walking in asking for the working women. It's awkward, weird. The escorts never give their real names so the client is in the lobby loitering waiting to hear from the worker. I know, I've done this! In New Jersey, there seems to be less hotel security as opposed to NYC hotels. Less awkward in Jersey? Maybe.

It has been a financial drain. Most sex workers charge $200 for an hour. This doesn't include the uber ride to/from the destination. If they're local that's even better. When I went for a two year period of being celibate I had more money in the bank. Like I said before, no regrets.

When I abstain from watching porn and save my ejaculation for the sex worker(about a 6 day period), I don't have trouble getting it up. If it's the other way around I have a hard time getting going, or if the sex worker is a little more masculine or rigid with rules, I don't tend to get excited.

For the most part, my experience has been positive. No life changing STD's, some bumps in the road here and there. I can be more consistent with fully protecting myself. I will do better.


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